When I hear anything Neuro, I instantly declare that it has something to do with the brain and it will be a series of medical jargons. Oh well, I was wrong this time. It isn’t some jaw-breaking crunch of jargons.
The term “Neurological Levels” (also called Logical Levels), first coined by Gregory Bateson and the model was created by Robert Dilts.
Take a look at Coach Mel’s Slide:
In simple terms, the logical levels serve as a tool that allows us to analyze our lives and situations in our life through different perspectives. Each logical level is a different point of view which is also connected to the other levels and they are arranged in a hierarchy of importance.
It is about layers. For example, the coronavirus hit the world late 2019 and t change the normal from how it used to be 1 year ago. It means that we all needed to start showing up in a different way now.
At a time, we are children, living with our parents. At another time, we moved away and lived an independent life, all by ourselves. Another time comes in that we find that special one and starts living together. Later on, we welcome the kids.
Changes keep happening and the way we are able to explore our lives during all these changes, through different lenses is what we are looking into in this session.
What Are My NARRATIVES?
Taking a look at the narratives, what have you been saying for the past years? For example, I was saying I couldn’t afford a coaching certification, I couldn’t afford to marry?
While the pandemic should have worked negatively to strengthen my previous narrative, I realized that it tweaked it in the positive.
These 2 decisions that I made in 2020 – to marry and to get a coaching certification – I decided to filter it through the Neurological levels.
I will take the example of the coaching certification:
In 2019, I intentionally joined coaching groups on Linkedin, I interned for 2 coaches, just to be in the circle of what I wanted. Interestingly, I spoke to Coach Mel about that goal too.
One shift of your environment (when and where) can change your narrative.
I asked, ‘where can I find the association of coaches to start learning in a little way?
I moved online to the circle of coaches, then I created another bank account to save up money to be able to get certified.
One shift in behavior (action) can cause a change in your narratives.
I asked, ‘what will I have to do to afford this?’
I reviewed my daily workload and took away unproductive activities, to free up time to take on projects that can increase my earning capacity.
One shift in competence (what/how = Skills/strategies) can change the narrative.
I asked, ‘what skills do I need to learn to free up more time, increase revenue, to get this certification?’
I learned afresh how to delegate tasks. For example, I used to create the reports of our organization’s events, but I was able to train a participant to do it, I only had to edit, then publish.
One shift in attitude (how much/fast = quantum/intensity) can change the narrative.
I asked, ‘what does it take to write all my blogs and get certified by Dec, 20th 2020?’
All I had to do was finish 1-2 blogs per day, add the flesh into all the drafts I wrote during the session and the blogs are made.
One shift in believe (why = motive/intention) can change the narrative. There should be an intention of desiring a change (neurologically)
I asked, ‘do I really want to be a coach?’ Yes! In the affirmative
I heard about coaching for the first time in 2012 and I had been fascinated by it, I have read about it, I have experienced coaching people (in my own amateur ways), but it was towards the end of 2019 that I finally had a pressing urge to move.
We all live under the umbrella of our belief system. A tweak to it will result in changes. Belief is a feel or acceptance of what you think is the truth.
Beliefs have legs. The stronger the legs of the table, the more stronger your arguments to support why you are at that level.
One shift in your identity (Who = being/doing) can change the narrative.
What are the expectations of people about me? I expect myself to have the skill sets to navigate the
Who am I comparing myself with? I see respected coaches and I see how they help people transform their lives in sustainable ways. I want to do a lot of that too.
My Key Takeaways
When exploring the reality of the coachee, check which level of truth they are speaking from – is it past experience, failures, other people words, or their own self- fulfilling prophecies?
Help them think about their narratives: Is it a reality, Is it positive, Is it negative and holding them back?
Note the words your coachee stress on. If they use more of words relating to a specific level, then mark it, that’s the area that need to be dealt with.
As a Coach, it is advisable to coach around values and beliefs -this is the pure good of getting things done. Behavior’s level is have you taken the action or not – objectives level. You need to start coaching the WHO (BEING), not just the WHAT (DOING).